Survive the Unexpected: Supersurvivors

 

supersurvivorsDo you wonder how you will survive something unexpected? 2014 did not go the way I expected. It was a real rollercoaster but 2015 has been better and I expect 2016 to be FANTASTIC! I hope you will share your story of gratitude in my Travel Writing Contest.

I wanted to share some quotes fromDavid Feldman and Lee Daniel Kravetz ‘s book, Supersurvivors: The Surprising Link Between Suffering and Success. I appreciated learning about the stories of Supersurvivors and how we can all be super.

 “Suffering is real, but resilience is also real. It is an incredible and encouraging fact about human nature that, contrary to popular belief, after a period of emotional turmoil, most trauma survivors eventually recover and return to their lives. They bounce back….Their stories betray their utter humanness—their stumbling and their grasping as they wrestle with the fundamental questions we all face: Who am I? What do I believe in? And most important, how should I live my life?”

I found it shocking when Feldman and Lee wrote: “the disorientation and groundlessness experienced by many people after trauma can ultimately be advantageous.” 

What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from. —T. S. ELIOT

What do you need to move forward? “Grounded hope, an approach to life involving building one’s choices on a firm understanding of reality…Stop thinking positively and start thinking realistically, to avoid the comforting fiction that “everything will be fine,” and instead bravely to ask, “What now?””

“Giving up is sometimes the only way to move forward. Truly accepting the consequences of a trauma with realistic thinking rather than delusional positive thinking can open people up to true hope—something that enables setting and achieving goals that ultimately can improve one’s life…Denying or distorting a bad situation may be comforting in the short term, but it’s potentially harmful in the long run because it will be almost impossible to solve a problem unless you first admit you have one.”

I would rather walk with a friend in the dark than alone in the light.

—HELEN KELLER

“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different…Forgiveness means breaking the psychological ties that bind you to the past, giving up the quest to change what has already happened…Rather than dwelling on the past, she found herself asking the hopeful and forward-looking question ‘What now?'”

“As much as we might yearn for a life without pain, without suffering, without adversity, we realize we’re asking the impossible. We must make choices—sometimes difficult, sometimes easy—based on what life puts in front of us. But we know how to survive these trials, and how to thrive despite them—or perhaps because of them. It’s part of who we are. Life is worth embracing in part because of our ability to transform suffering into triumph and setbacks into successes. Supersurvival isn’t a magic bullet that makes everything instantly better. It’s not something we do that solves all our problems forever. In a way, life is a constant process of supersurvival, of facing life’s seemingly impossible choices with honesty and faith in ourselves. It’s a capacity all of us share. It’s the capacity to hope.”

Did you like my selected quotes from David Feldman and Lee Daniel Kravetz ‘s book, Supersurvivors: The Surprising Link Between Suffering and Success. I hope you will read the whole book and share your story of resilience in my Travel Writing Contest.

Lisa Ellen Niver

Lisa Ellen Niver, M.A. Education, is a television host, travel journalist as well as a passionate artist, educator and writer who has explored 101 countries, 6 continents and sailed on cruise ships for seven years on the high seas and backpacked for three years in Asia. She is the founder of We Said Go Travel which was read in 212 countries in 2018 and named #3 on the top 1000 Travel Blog and the top female travel blogger 3 times in 2019. Find her talking travel at KTLA TV and in her We Said Go Travel videos with over one million views on her YouTube channel. She has hosted Facebook Live for USA Today 10best, is verified on both Twitter and Facebook, has over 150,000 followers across social media and ran fifteen travel competitions publishing over 2500 writers and photographers from 75 countries. She has been a finalist for six Southern California Journalism Awards in the past three years and won an award for her Jewish Journal article. Niver has written for AARP, American Airways, Delta Sky, En Route (Air Canada), Hemispheres (United Airlines), Jewish Journal, Luxury Magazine, Ms. Magazine, Myanmar Times, National Geographic, POPSUGAR, Robb Report, Saturday Evening Post, Scuba Diver Life, Sierra Club, Ski Utah, Smithsonian, Trivago, USA Today 10best, Wharton Magazine and Yahoo. She is writing a book, “Brave Rebel: 50 Scary Challenges Before 50,” about her most recent travels and challenges. Look for her underwater SCUBA diving, in her art studio making ceramics or helping people find their next dream trip. http://lisaniver.com/one-page/

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