Swimming for Grace

 

by Vicki Bunke

Standing along the shore of the Sea of Galilee, I found it fitting to learn that it is the lowest freshwater lake in the world. I had recently experienced the lowest point in my life. Eight months earlier, my 14-year-old daughter Grace died after living with osteosarcoma or bone cancer for four years. As I looked out over the lake, I was grateful that Grace picked this spot. She viewed the Sea of Galilee as the most sacred body of water on the planet. Seeing it in person, touching the water, and walking along the shoreline, I now understood why. Although there was something extraordinarily remarkable about this ancient body of water, the magnificence of the landscape didn’t make our purpose for being there any easier. Grace chose to be cremated upon her death and asked for us to place her ashes into the Sea of Galilee.

As I watched Caroline, Grace’s younger sister, lovingly pour Grace’s ashes into the water, I knew at that very moment that I needed to do something to honor Grace’s life. I knew I needed to do something to honor Caroline’s profound loss. I knew I needed to do something so that other younger sisters like Caroline would not have to help carry out the last wishes of their older sisters because they died of a disease called osteosarcoma. A disease whose treatment has not changed in three decades. Three decades.

But what would that something be? Standing on the shore of the Sea of Galilee in November 2018, I had no idea. Not a clue. Fortunately, however, that something found me four months later while sitting in a lecture hall at Emory University.

Prior to Grace’s cancer diagnosis at the age of eleven, she was an avid and energetic soccer player and runner. Following her initial 8-month cancer treatment that involved a partial-leg amputation and while waiting on her running prosthetic to be constructed, Grace turned to swimming. Although initially meant to be a means of getting back into shape to return to running, Grace fell in love with swimming.

Not only did Grace take to swimming, but swimming took to her. She constantly improved, earning times faster than many teammates who swam with both legs. Although Grace’s swimming improved, her health did not. Grace’s cancer kept returning eventually leading to a terminal prognosis. Grace was going to die. But that didn’t keep her from swimming and competing. In fact, even as she became sicker, she became faster – eventually making it onto her high school swim team and being presented with her Team USA Paralympic swim cap. Determined to live her life fully and continue to make a difference, Grace kept swimming. Even choosing to stop chemo because while taking it, she couldn’t swim. Grace had to keep swimming for the sake of giving and finding a cure.

Shortly after learning of her terminal prognosis, Grace became involved with Swim Across America, a nonprofit organization that hosts open water swimming events to raise money for cancer research. Despite tumors growing in her lungs and on her spine, Grace swam a mile at the 2017 Swim Across America – Atlanta open water event. She raised over $20,000 for cancer research earning her the distinction of top fundraiser. Following that swim, Grace set her sights on 2018. She announced that she planned not to just swim again at the Atlanta event, but she dedicated herself to being the top national fundraiser. And she was, but she didn’t get to swim. Not because she didn’t want to, rather because she died six months prior to the event on March 25th, one day before her 15th birthday.

This is an excerpt from Grace’s 2018 Swim Across America fundraising page:

Last September, I was honored to swim at Lake Lanier to raise money for my treating clinic/hospital and in honor of the people who have helped me for the past almost 4 years. They all carry fancy titles like doctor, oncologist, nurse practitioner, nurse, physical therapist and prosthetist. But they have found a special place in my heart, and as a result, they all carry a much more valuable and special title now. I simply call them my friends. They care about me, they love me, and they wish they could do something more to save my life. But they can’t. They are smart and talented and dedicated and committed, but despite being all of those things, they can’t do anything now to save my life. My cancer called osteosarcoma just does not want to cooperate with their treatments and medications. No, it has other plans. Primarily it plans to take my life. And excepting divine intervention, it will. We just don’t know when. But if our collective ‘umbrella prayers’ remain unanswered, it will happen well before the next Atlanta Swim Across America Open Water event that will take place on September 22, 2018.


But rest assured, I will definitely be at Lake Lanier come September 22nd. You just might not be able to see me. But if you are swimming in the water or cheering along the shore, I hope you will be able to feel my presence and spirit as we all continue to make waves to cure cancer. Because I am hopeful that by working together, we can change the future of other young people like myself who are diagnosed with cancer. Although the open water Atlanta Swim Across America event in September will have a finish line, guess what doesn’t? Hope. Hope has no finish line.

Hope, said Grace, has no finish line.

And neither does my commitment to honor Grace’s life and memory. Although Grace was not able to swim in the September 2018 event, guess who swam in her place? Me. Because I love swimming in lakes? No, I swam because Grace asked me to. Which was no small feat because up until the day I began training for the open water event, I had never swum a lap in my life. But I learned how, and I completed the mile swim in September 2018. At the closing ceremony of the 2018 event, I committed to swim the 5K the following September. Yet that didn’t seem like enough as I stood along the shore of the Sea of Galilee in November 2018 watching Caroline pour out Grace’s ashes from a wooden urn.

But what more could or should I do to honor Grace’s life? The answer came to me in March 2019 at a Swim Across America presentation at Emory University. While sitting in the lecture hall listening to the Swim Across America-sponsored doctors describe their research, I received a message. And this was the message: I was supposed to swim in 14 of the Swim Across America open water events to honor the 14 years that Grace lived. 14 open water events for 14 years of Grace. 14 open water events to raise money for cancer research. This endeavor became known as The Amazing Grace Swim Across America Tour.

The Amazing Grace Swim Across America Tour began on Mother’s Day weekend in Tampa, Florida. At this point, I have completed 13 of the open water swims, with 1 more to go. In addition, to Tampa, I have traveled to Detroit, Nantucket, New York (2x), Connecticut, Charleston-Kiawah, Chicago, St. Louis, Denver, Seattle, Baltimore and Dallas. My 14th and final swim is in my hometown of Atlanta on October 2. Our collective team has raised over $122,000 to fund cancer research in Grace’s honor.

So why do I swim?

I swim with the hope that one day in the future when another young person who believes like Grace that the Sea of Galilee is the most sacred body of water on the planet, that they can travel to Israel with their family and stand along the shoreline as a tourist rather than as a heap of ashes in a wooden box. That is why I swim. Like Grace, I swim for hope. Hope, said Grace, has no finish line.

Mom Swimming Across America to Honor Her 14 Year Old Daughter Lost to Cancer, Finishes with 14th Swim on October 2 in Hometown

Vicki Bunke Comes Home to Atlanta for Last Swim of the Year

ATLANTA, September 22, 2021 — Vicki Bunke, the Mom who has spent this summer swimming across America in honor of her 14 year old daughter Grace, who sadly lost her battle with osteosarcoma, a rare form of bone cancer, is coming home to complete her 14th and final swim in her hometown of Atlanta on October 2, 2021. The swim will take place at the Swim Across America Atlanta open water swim, being held at Lake Lanier Olympic Park in Gainesville, Georgia. Joining Vicki for her final swim is two-time Gold and Silver Medalist at the recent Tokyo Paralympic Games, Mallory Weggemann, who is also a 15-time world champion swimmer for Team USA.

Mallory was introduced to Grace prior to her passing by Delta CEO Ed Bastion. Mallory was so impressed by Grace that she featured Grace in her book Limitless: The Power of Hope and Resilience to Overcome Circumstance.

“I’m so excited to be able to join Vicki Bunke in her final swim in her hometown of Atlanta,” said Mallory. “The stars aligned and I happened to be in Atlanta for a book signing, of which Grace is one of the inspirational figures I’ve profiled. Even though Grace was only 14 years old when I met her, she was one of those individuals who leaves an indelible mark on your soul. She was wise and poised well beyond her years and inspired me with every swim and every dedicated action she made in her short life. I’m so honored to be able to share the water with her Mom Vicki.”

An avid runner as a child, Grace was diagnosed at age 11 and battled osteosarcoma for nearly four years, undergoing treatment including a partial leg amputation where the lower half of her leg was reattached backward (rotationplasty) and three lung operations. While recuperating from the surgery, swimming found Grace. She quickly excelled at swimming making her varsity high school swim team and earning her national cap for the U.S. Paralympic team in 2017. She took to open water swimming and participated in the Swim Across America Atlanta open water charity swim near her home the fall of 2017. She bravely and publicly battled cancer with the trademark name given to her by others, “Amazing Grace.” 

“Grace found inspiration and hope in swimming,” noted her mom Vicki Bunke. “Participating in the Swim Across America open water swim was an accomplishment she strived for when she was sick. In fact, she came to love swimming so much that even though she continued to get sicker, she swam faster and better at every meet. In 2018, when she was too sick to swim, she asked me to swim in her place. When one of your daughter’s last requests on this earth is to swim for her when she no longer can, you honor that request. After Grace passed, I was compelled to do more. Swimming in 14 Swim Across America open water swims this year seemed a fitting tribute – a swim for each year of Grace’s life. To have Mallory and other members of my Team Amazing Grace join me at this last swim in our hometown makes it even more special. I know Grace is smiling at this and it is just another example of how ‘hope has no finish line.’”

“Vicki and Grace Bunke’s story is so compelling that we featured them in the first two episodes of this summer’s docu-series WaveMakers that featured Swim Across America athletes and inspirational stories about why we make waves to fight cancer, noted Rob Butcher, CEO of Swim Across America. “Grace’s story, even though it didn’t have the happy ending we all wanted, left a legacy of what she would have wanted for all of us left behind — to turn her loss into triumph. Team Amazing Grace and the 14 charity swims Vicki has undertaken this summer, celebrate the legacy of Grace Bunke, and importantly have raised critical funds for pediatric research.” 

Funds raised this summer by Vicki Bunke in her “Amazing Grace” swim tour total more than $122,000 and climbing and will specifically support pediatric cancer research and treatments. Every 15 minutes, 50 Americans are diagnosed with cancer. And for three decades, Swim Across America has been providing grants that have led to new cures in immunotherapy and gene therapy that have given hope. To learn more about Vicki Bunke’s Amazing Grace Tour, visit swimacrossamerica.org/goto/Vicki.

About Swim Across America

Swim Across America, Inc. (SAA) is dedicated to raising money and awareness for cancer research, prevention and treatment through swimming-related charity events. Founded in 1987, Swim Across America has raised more than $100 million that has funded cancer research and clinical trials. With the help of volunteers nationwide and Olympians, Swim Across America grants have been at the forefront of leading to new treatments in immunotherapy and gene therapy. To learn more visit  swimacrossamerica.org or follow on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter @SAASwim.

Vicki Bunke Amazing Grace Swim Dates:

May 8:                         Tampa

July 9:                         Detroit

July 24:                       Nantucket

July 31:                       Long Island Sound (Larchmont, NY)

August 7:                     Long Island, NY

August 8:                     Fairfield County, CT

August 15:                  Charleston-Kiawah

August 21:                  Chicago

August 28:                  St. Louis

August 29:                  Denver

September 11:            Seattle

September 12:            Baltimore

September 25:            Dallas

October 2:                   Atlanta

Lisa Ellen Niver

Lisa Ellen Niver, M.A. Education, is a science teacher and is an award-winning travel expert who has explored 101 countries and six continents. A graduate of the University of Pennsylvania, she worked on cruise ships for seven years and backpacked for three years in Asia. You can find her talking travel at KTLA TV and in her We Said Go Travel videos with over 1.3 million views on her YouTube channel. As a journalist, Niver has interviewed an Olympic swimmer and numerous bestselling authors and has been invited to both the Oscars and the United Nations. She is the founder of We Said Go Travel which is read in 235 countries and was named #3 on Rise Global’s top 1,000 Travel Blogs. She was named both a Top 10 Travel Influencer and a Top 50 Female Influencer for 2021 by Afluencer and is the Social Media Manager for the Los Angeles Press Club. She has been nominated for the inaugural Forbes 50 over 50/Know Your Value list due out in Summer 2021. She has hosted Facebook Live for USA Today 10best and has more than 150,000 followers across social media. Niver is a judge for the Gracies Awards for the Alliance of Women in Media and has also run 15 travel competitions publishing over 2,500 writers and photographers from 75 countries on We Said Go Travel. For her print and digital stories as well as her television segments, she has been awarded two Southern California Journalism Awards and two National Arts and Entertainment Journalism Awards. From 2017 to 2021 in the Southern California Journalism Awards and National Arts and Entertainment Journalism Awards, she has won four times for her broadcast television segments, print and digital articles. Niver won in 2021 as Book Critic and in 2019 for one of her KTLA TV segments NAEJ (National Arts and Entertainment Journalism) award. Niver won an award for her print magazine article for Hemispheres Magazine for United Airlines in the 2020 Southern California Journalism Awards and a 2017 Southern California Journalism Award for her print story for the Jewish Journal. Niver has written for National Geographic, USA Today 10best, TODAY, Teen Vogue, POPSUGAR, Ms. Magazine, Luxury Magazine, Smithsonian, Sierra Club, Saturday Evening Post, AARP, American Airways, Delta Sky, En Route (Air Canada), Hemispheres, Jewish Journal, Myanmar Times, Robb Report, Scuba Diver Life, Ski Utah, Trivago, Undomesticated, Wharton Magazine and Yahoo. She is writing a book, “Brave(ish): It's All About Perspective 50 Adventures Before 50,” about her most recent travels and insights. When she's not SCUBA diving or in her art studio making ceramics, she's helping people find their next dream trip.  http://lisaniver.com/one-page/

One response to “Swimming for Grace

  1. What a beautiful, inspiring story!! Brought me to tears, but WOW, what a resilient and amazing Mom Vicki is.

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