Pearls of Wisdom for a Happy Anniversary!




As an assistant cruise director on the Love Boat, I hosted a party that included more than 2500 years of marriage.  I asked the couples to tell me their secrets. How did they stay married for over half a century, when most of us can’t even get a second date? They were happy to share their wisdom and they hope it helps everyone have more second dates and full centuries of marriage.

Panama Cruise Pearls of Wisdom from October 1999
Kiss good night every night before you go to sleep.
Share everything especially your feelings.
Never go to bed angry.
Plenty of loving is what the doctor ordered.
When you are angry go out for a walk.
Be patient with each other.
Be willing to say you are sorry.
Don’t try to get in the last word.
Remember that you have made a commitment.
Compromise is one of the main keys to success.
Laughing is very healthy for the soul of your relationship.
Don’t Lose Respect for each other.
Be nice—remember what your mother said, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Grin and bear it—who’s perfect?
Be best friends.
Learn to say YES DEAR.
Keep your mouth shut.
Teamwork is the most important thing. Remember you are on the same team.
Really Listen. Don’t plan what you are going to say next. Listen to what your partner is saying.
Dance your life away and enjoy it.
Thank god each day for what you’ve been given.
Don’t find fault.
Keep a sense of humor.
Communication is key, Listen to each other and talk to each other.
Carefully chose your mate.
Respect each other.
Remember what you said the first day—your vows.
Have a lousy memory.
Always stay in love.

At our wedding, December 19, 2009, Rabbi Zeldin read the Apache wedding blessing:
Now we will feel no rain, for each of us will be shelter for the other.
Now we will feel no cold, for each of us will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness, for each of us will be companion to the other.
Now we are two persons, but there is only one life before us.”

We wish you many years of happiness, sunsets and celebration!!! We are enjoying our anniversary!
Lisa and George

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Article first published as Pearls of Wisdom for Staying Married on Technorati.


Lisa Ellen Niver

Lisa Ellen Niver, M.A. Education, is a science teacher and is an award-winning travel expert who has explored 101 countries and six continents. A graduate of the University of Pennsylvania, she worked on cruise ships for seven years and backpacked for three years in Asia. You can find her talking travel at KTLA TV and in her We Said Go Travel videos with over 1.3 million views on her YouTube channel. As a journalist, Niver has interviewed an Olympic swimmer and numerous bestselling authors and has been invited to both the Oscars and the United Nations. She is the founder of We Said Go Travel which is read in 235 countries and was named #3 on Rise Global’s top 1,000 Travel Blogs. She was named both a Top 10 Travel Influencer and a Top 50 Female Influencer for 2021 by Afluencer and is the Social Media Manager for the Los Angeles Press Club. She has been nominated for the inaugural Forbes 50 over 50/Know Your Value list due out in Summer 2021. She has hosted Facebook Live for USA Today 10best and has more than 150,000 followers across social media. Niver is a judge for the Gracies Awards for the Alliance of Women in Media and has also run 15 travel competitions publishing over 2,500 writers and photographers from 75 countries on We Said Go Travel. For her print and digital stories as well as her television segments, she has been awarded two Southern California Journalism Awards and two National Arts and Entertainment Journalism Awards. From 2017 to 2021 in the Southern California Journalism Awards and National Arts and Entertainment Journalism Awards, she has won four times for her broadcast television segments, print and digital articles. Niver won in 2021 as Book Critic and in 2019 for one of her KTLA TV segments NAEJ (National Arts and Entertainment Journalism) award. Niver won an award for her print magazine article for Hemispheres Magazine for United Airlines in the 2020 Southern California Journalism Awards and a 2017 Southern California Journalism Award for her print story for the Jewish Journal. Niver has written for National Geographic, USA Today 10best, TODAY, Teen Vogue, POPSUGAR, Ms. Magazine, Luxury Magazine, Smithsonian, Sierra Club, Saturday Evening Post, AARP, American Airways, Delta Sky, En Route (Air Canada), Hemispheres, Jewish Journal, Myanmar Times, Robb Report, Scuba Diver Life, Ski Utah, Trivago, Undomesticated, Wharton Magazine and Yahoo. She is writing a book, “Brave(ish): It's All About Perspective 50 Adventures Before 50,” about her most recent travels and insights. When she's not SCUBA diving or in her art studio making ceramics, she's helping people find their next dream trip.

3 responses to “Pearls of Wisdom for a Happy Anniversary!

  1. From Marcia:

    I love your "pearls of wisdom", dear Lisa! I know that in the year 2059 you and George will be on a different Love Boat celebrating your 50th! In the meantime, enjoy the boat you and all the Nivers are on right this minute. Love ya', Marcia

  2. From Fortune

    Happy Anniversary, you two.
    Congratulations, and much love,
    p.s. These pearls of wisdom are fantastic!

  3. From Nanette:

    Wishing you another happy anniversary. Hope you are enjoying your cruise!
    Happy and a healthy New Year. Enjoy your family and say hi for us.

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