Choose Yourself!

 

In today’s stressed out world where many people live on deadlines and balance their finances paycheck to paycheck, it can seem challenging to stop and take care of your own self.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross has said, “There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace. You will find that deep place of silence right in your room, your garden or even your bathtub.”  While this notion may be true, it can be easier to stop thinking about work and the piles of papers on the kitchen table (and filling your inbox) when you are physically separated from the tasks. Sydney J Harris used to say, “The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” There are times when you just need to focus on yourself and the best choice for relaxing is just to get away.

One of my favorite characters is Helen Fielding’s Olivia Jules in Olivia Joules and the Overactive Imagination. I love her “Rules for Living” which include the following: 1. Never panic. Stop, breathe, think. 2. No one is ever thinking about you. They’re thinking about themselves, just like you. 15. Don’t regret anything. Remember there wasn’t anything else that could have happened, given who you were and that state of the world at the moment. The only thing you can change is the present, so learn from the past.

I would love to go to the Spa with Olivia and relax with her for a Spa weekend break in the UK. I love her rules for living and think she would be a great spa day partner. I wonder if she would have joined in with George and my parents when we all tried out a Tai Chi class at a spa day. It was really fun to have a private class but it was definitely challenging!

I always love to take a tour of a spa and see all its great facilities. I like to go in the sauna but do not like a steam room. My favorite treatment is a hot rocks massage or a hot oil massage. If you have not tried them, think about trying something new on your spa weekend. Find out all that is on offer at the spa you select and pick what will make you feel more relaxed.

You have to remember to feel comfortable. Going to the same place but having a new treatment can feel like a real vacation. A friend and I went to a Korean spa and had a body scrub and then a massage. The massage was so rough I actually saw stars like a cartoon character in a movie. My friend said to me, “Why didn’t you tell them it was too much?” I said, “I thought it would feel good later.” She said, “You were making crazy faces!” I did feel great later but would not recommend having a treatment that causes you significant pain or discomfort. Make sure to ask questions and to tell the staff what you want: Do you want softer music? A warmer room? Dimmer lights? This is your time so speak up!

Spa days in Kent are on my to-do list; I plan to meet up with my friend, Nancy, and enjoy some relaxing treatments, and finish with a cup of tea. I cannot wait to stop and smell the roses and to not think about my bulging email inbox.

Lisa Ellen Niver

Lisa Ellen Niver, M.A. Education, is a science teacher and is an award-winning travel expert who has explored 101 countries and six continents. A graduate of the University of Pennsylvania, she worked on cruise ships for seven years and backpacked for three years in Asia. You can find her talking travel at KTLA TV and in her We Said Go Travel videos with over 1.3 million views on her YouTube channel. As a journalist, Niver has interviewed an Olympic swimmer and numerous bestselling authors and has been invited to both the Oscars and the United Nations. She is the founder of We Said Go Travel which is read in 235 countries and was named #3 on Rise Global’s top 1,000 Travel Blogs. She was named both a Top 10 Travel Influencer and a Top 50 Female Influencer for 2021 by Afluencer and is the Social Media Manager for the Los Angeles Press Club. She has been nominated for the inaugural Forbes 50 over 50/Know Your Value list due out in Summer 2021. She has hosted Facebook Live for USA Today 10best and has more than 150,000 followers across social media. Niver is a judge for the Gracies Awards for the Alliance of Women in Media and has also run 15 travel competitions publishing over 2,500 writers and photographers from 75 countries on We Said Go Travel. For her print and digital stories as well as her television segments, she has been awarded two Southern California Journalism Awards and two National Arts and Entertainment Journalism Awards. From 2017 to 2021 in the Southern California Journalism Awards and National Arts and Entertainment Journalism Awards, she has won four times for her broadcast television segments, print and digital articles. Niver won in 2021 as Book Critic and in 2019 for one of her KTLA TV segments NAEJ (National Arts and Entertainment Journalism) award. Niver won an award for her print magazine article for Hemispheres Magazine for United Airlines in the 2020 Southern California Journalism Awards and a 2017 Southern California Journalism Award for her print story for the Jewish Journal. Niver has written for National Geographic, USA Today 10best, TODAY, Teen Vogue, POPSUGAR, Ms. Magazine, Luxury Magazine, Smithsonian, Sierra Club, Saturday Evening Post, AARP, American Airways, Delta Sky, En Route (Air Canada), Hemispheres, Jewish Journal, Myanmar Times, Robb Report, Scuba Diver Life, Ski Utah, Trivago, Undomesticated, Wharton Magazine and Yahoo. She is writing a book, “Brave(ish): It's All About Perspective 50 Adventures Before 50,” about her most recent travels and insights. When she's not SCUBA diving or in her art studio making ceramics, she's helping people find their next dream trip.  http://lisaniver.com/one-page/

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